I had an interesting day, yesterday.
I don’t know anyone around here with sailing experience. And I’m not allowed to go solo. So I am inevitably sailing with inexperienced crew. Two friends have become very regular sailing companions and have become pretty good crew within the range of the things that they normally do. They can get the boat fully setup and ready to sail and put her away when we are done without my help. Though I do help, of course. In fact, they often remind me of things I’ve forgotten! (And vice-versa. We are all old and forgetful.)
Recently, due to my health issues, they expressed concern about what they would do if I became incapacitated while we were out. I can sympathize with that: being stuck out in a boat, such a complex and dynamic environment without the skills to deal with it. So we started off by talking about it.
They know how to drop the sails safely, so I reminded them of that. I taught them how to start and stop the engine. Very easy and they got it just fine. We spent a couple of hours with them motoring around in circles, stopping, proceeding, reversing, etc. But none of us could quite make that leap to docking. It’s almost as hard to teach your friends a difficult skill as it is to teach your spouse!
So we hired a professional training captain to help us out. We spent 6.5 hours yesterday working on their boat handling and docking and doing MOB training and practice. I mostly just watched and tried not to wince. Only had to jump in and extract the boat from a bad situation once and no actual contact was made.
My two friends were left really wrung out, but feeling much more confident, and I was relieved that I did not have to do this. (And frankly, I could not possibly have done such a good job as the pro did.) It cost us $400, which we split three ways. I was happy to pay my share because having them trained gives me great peace of mind, too. And I doubt that I will become incapacitated (it’s not that kind of cancer) so it was mostly about piece of mind.
The training was for Mark and Karen, not for me, and I only took the helm during MOB practice and while raising/lowering the sail. (And in that one emergency.) Most of the time I was so debilitated by my recent Lupron shot that I really did play the role of “incapacitated” pretty well. But I watched carefully and picked up some pointers that I intend to put into practice, myself. Only a fool would ignore the potential lessons to be gained from a skilled individual.
Selecting your training captain is crucial. A very experienced captain works his boat off of the same dock that I am on and he has expressed interest in sailing my boat. But he was totally disinterested in training. I searched around and found a guy who seemed to have a great attitude and comes highly recommended. He was relaxed, gently, precise, persistent, and non-confrontational. No Captain Bligh here, just a good teacher. He truly seemed to enjoy our day out as much as we did and he defused the one bad incident so well that the friend who was at the helm never felt bad about it.
We did vow to practice. We’ll see how that goes.
And Karen is writing up a MOB checklist which they are going to laminate. They are a good crew.
I’m not writing this to advise anyone else to do it. I think everyone’s situation is different. But it’s something to consider.